So what are the next steps to take, to have a reasonably orderly home?

This is what I do. These are things I learned from all the before-mentioned people, and others, and modified for what works for me as a retired person. I started doing these things while I was still working. They became essential to my sanity. 

1. After my morning quiet time, I put on my sneakers  and get to work (or go to work, or out, or for a walk. Whatever.) Shoes on your feet really help you get more done. See rationale here. https://www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/flying-lessons/dressed-to-shoes/
2. Make my bed. Looks so nice!
3. I do a quick straighten up all over. Doesn’t take long – try it! Ahhh – the house now looks like I intended it to! Pretty!
4. Plan dinner. Might need to take something out of freezer, or run to the store. 
5. if I’m not going out, I work on whatever project I planned the night before. Do whatever cleaning needs to be done. Try to fit in cleaning something out – a closet, a drawer, pack up giveaways and put in car, etc.. 
6. Do all the dishes after dinner, clean up the kitchen completely. Clean up the stove, the counters, the sink. I leave my dishes to dry in the rack. Once you start, it gets more rewarding as you go. Ahh! The kitchen looks beautiful, as I intended it.
7. Get clothes out for tomorrow. Really important if you work. I’m retired now, but I get clothes out that I wear to work around the house (I call it my uniform!) – clothes I can get bleach on, eg. Or if I’m going out, I pick out my clothes for that. Everything, including shoes, socks and accessories.  You’ll thank yourself in the morning. 
8. Plan my day for tomorrow. 

That’s it! If you are a messy, and you start with these steps, it will truly change your life.

I love how flylady describes part of her inner self as her inner brat. It makes you realize that Yeah! I’m just being a brat if I start scrolling through social media right now. 

Hope this helps! God bless. 
PLEASE comment below if you have ideas that have helped you.
Also please comment on the previous post for ideas to help motivate others. You could change someone’s life with some simple thought! Thanks!